Let Them: The Meaning Behind Mel Robbins' Viral Theory on Relationships and the Power of Choice

When Mel Robbins came out with the "Let Them" theory, she was talking about the power of simply letting people do whatever they please and not having it bother and impact your life.

In this article, we're going to dive into how to fully integrate this theory into your life and add onto it....

Not only do I say Let Them.

I say Let Them & Lead.

Let's talk about what this means.

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What is the "Let Them" Theory?

The Let Them Theory is an extremely motivating concept that Mel Robbins coined in the realm of mental health.

This theory is going viral with a million views since it encourages us to practice the art of letting go and allowing things to unfold naturally.

Instead of trying to control other people or situations, we are taught to accept that we cannot change anyone else's action.

We can only change our reaction and how we move forward.

This theory, popularized by mindset speaker and podcast host, Mel Robbins has gained millions of views and likes for its profound definition of peace of mind.

Letting go can actually help us improve our mental health and stop wasting much time and energy on things we cannot change.

It is a step in the right direction towards a sense of inner peace.

So, next time someone hurts your feelings or upsets you, feel that emotion and then remember that you have the choice of how you are going to respond.

You can choose detachment instead of staying angry or stressed for a long period of time.

Here's the thing, it's not to say don't feel your feelings.

It's to say that if someone is going to show you their true colors, let them, instead of trying to change them.

Letting go may actually help more than you realize.

It is not about giving up or giving in, but rather about making a conscious decision to allow things to happen naturally.

You do not have to carry the burden of people's expectations, actions, or decisions.

Whew, how freeing is that?!

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The "Let Them" Theory in Action

The "Let Them" theory isn't just a concept; it's a mindset we can embrace in our everyday lives.

Imagine you're at a crossroads in your career, passionately pursuing a path that others may not fully understand or support.

Perhaps your family or friends question your choices, urging you to follow a more conventional route.

Instead of succumbing to their doubts or feeling pressured to conform, you decide to embody the "Let Them" approach.

You acknowledge their concerns with gratitude for their care and concern, but you remain steadfast in your belief in yourself and your vision.

You trust in your instincts and capabilities, knowing that this career path aligns with your passions and purpose.

Despite any external skepticism, you choose to forge ahead with confidence, allowing others to hold their opinions while you stay true to your path.

In doing so, you honor your autonomy and empower yourself to pursue your dreams authentically.

You recognize that everyone's journey is unique, and what may seem unconventional to others can be the perfect fit for you.

By embracing the "Let Them" mindset, you cultivate resilience, self-assurance, and a deeper connection to your inner wisdom.

Applying the "Let Them" theory extends beyond career decisions; it permeates every aspect of our lives.

It's about granting ourselves and others the freedom to pursue our own paths, free from judgment or expectation.

It's about fostering understanding, respect, and acceptance in our relationships, even when perspectives diverge.

Psychologists affirm the transformative power of the "Let Them" approach in fostering resilience and nurturing healthier connections.

By honoring our autonomy and embracing the diversity of human experience, we create space for growth, authenticity, and mutual support.

So, the next time you encounter resistance or doubt on your journey, remember to "Let Them" hold their opinions while you hold fast to your truth.

Trust in yourself, believe in your dreams, and pave your own path with courage and conviction.

In doing so, you not only honor your own journey but also inspire others to do the same.

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Expanding on the Let Them Theory to Feel More Empowered

I believe the "Let Them" theory is a powerful concept, but I also think there's room to expand on it.

After you've let them, it's crucial to come back to yourself and examine the emotions it stirs up.

Take some time to sit with your feelings, soothe your nervous system, and then forge ahead confidently on your own unique path.

I call this approach the Let Them & Lead.

It's about choosing the empowered route and then tending to yourself to find peace in your decisions.

A regulated nervous system is essential for navigating life's challenges.

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With these powerful resources at your fingertips, you'll be equipped with the tools and knowledge you need to achieve your goals and live a fulfilling life.

This is your permission to "Let Them" and live your own best life!

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Feel free to send me a message and get in touch! 

Lots of love,


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